Earlier today, I wrote a post about Lent. In it, I described the three disciplines of Lent (fasting, prayer and almsgivig) and what I was going to do to fulfill them. I am not sure why I felt the need to share what I was going to do, other than to possibly inspire others to participate more in the prayer and almsgiving and not just the fasting. However, after doing more research on Lent and arguments for and against observing it, I came across this from the New Testament:
“Be careful not to practice your righteousness in front of others to be seen by them. If you do, you will have no reward from your Father in heaven.
2 “So when you give to the needy, do not announce it with trumpets, as the hypocrites do in the synagogues and on the streets, to be honored by others. Truly I tell you, they have received their reward in full.
3 But when you give to the needy, do not let your left hand know what your right hand is doing,
4 so that your giving may be in secret. Then your Father, who sees what is done in secret, will reward you.”
Whoops! After reflecting on this scripture, I decided to delete the earlier post since it pretty much went against this. Whatever we do or do not do in Lent and in life is between each of us and God. I guess sometimes we just need a reminder. At least I do!
The older I get, the more I realize how fortunate I am to have always felt loved, not just on Valentine’s Day, but every day of my life. I have been blessed with many things in my life, but by far, the greatest blessings I have received are the people God has put in my life.
My first valentine was my dad. He always made the day special by getting me a box of Russel Stover candy – the one with the deep red cellophane on top. I remember it having dark chocolate, milk chocolate and one piece each of a pink and yellow chocolate. I loved each and every one and loved my dad for making the day special! My brother later played a role and would give me stickers for my sticker collection or a small box of chocolates. I remember one year when I was in my 20s, I had just broken up with someone and my dad and brother sent me flowers at work. I broke down in tears and still have the card they sent. It meant so much and cheered me up right away!
In elementary school, my classmates were my valentines. We gave each other valentines to put in our decorated paper lunch bags. I fondly remember giving and receiving Scooby Doo valentines along with the The Flinstones, Barbie, Transformers and Strawberry Shortcake! Yes, I am dating myself! I don’t have many memories of Valentine’s Day in middle school, other than one boy giving me a flower, but he was not my boyfriend. In high school, I only had a boyfriend my junior and senior years and remember getting pink and red carnations at lunch in the cafeteria. Such a romantic place to get a gift! HA!!
My mom was my valentine a few years as well. I remember one year, I was dating some yahoo who did not get me a gift for Valentine’s Day. She felt badly for me so she bought me a beautiful silver locket with a rose engraved on it. It meant so much to me and still does to this day.
For a few years, my students and niece and nephew were my valentines. They would give me valentines and little boxes of chocolate. It was so sweet for the kids to think of me. Even if I was feeling lonely, their heartfelt cards and gifts always warmed my heart and made me smile.
For over a decade, my girlfriends were my valentines since we were all single! There were a few years where one or two of us had dates, but for many years, it was just “the girls.” And that never stopped us from having a great time! We would go dinner or to our favorite martini bar or wherever we wanted. I remember one year, we all met at one of our favorite bars and every single one of us wore red. The bartender referred to us as “the girls in red” all night. Hey, it helped us get free drinks! One of the best times was the year we went to Atlantic City to celebrate. Our usual night of drinking, dancing, and gambling made it one of the best times! So. Much. Fun!!
When I was 34, I met my ultimate valentine, my husband! Though I didn’t know it at the time, the day we met was the day my life would change forever. Since that date, almost 10 years ago, I met the man with whom I would spend the rest of my days. I could not have imagined that one person could bring so much joy, happiness and love into my life. He is an amazing husband and person and I love him with all my heart and soul!
Today is a day about love. But really, every day should be! There is love all around us but sometimes, I think we forget how much we are loved by our parents, siblings, children, friends, and significant others. I hope each of you feels love today and every day and have a wonderful year filled with happiness, laughter and smiles!
This is what I have had to tell myself for the past few months. It has nothing to do with my family or marriage or career. They are all already good, thank God. I am talking about my beloved country and what is happening all around us.
It is very easy to get depressed and disheartened with what has happened in America over the past year or so. I will not go into specifics, for that will feed into all the misery, angst and disappointment I have been feeling. Instead, I am going to start to focus on the good because we cannot let other people’s poor choices, despicable actions and vile words steal our personal joy! Life is too short to get wrapped up in the anger and negativity that is all around us.
We must focus on the good.
These are a few good things I am focusing on right now. I hope you can too!
- Family and friends – God has blessed me with some of the most wonderful people in my own family and in my husband’s family. I am thankful for them each and every day.
- The American flag – As I proudly hang my flag outside my door each day, it makes me think of all the heroes that have fought and sacrificed for our country. When I say the Pledge of Allegiance, I do not take it lightly and mean every word. I am proud to be the granddaughter of two World War II veterans and the daughter of a Navy veteran.
- Flowers – Who does not enjoy looking at the vibrant colors of roses, poinsettias, daisies and daffodils? They inspire me to see the beauty in all things and make me thankful that I have been blessed with the gift of sight.
- Dogs – Some of the greatest creatures given to man! They are great companions, loyal family members and provide hours of entertainment!
- Laughter – I especially love hearing the unabated laughter of children. They laugh from their bellies; something more adults should do! I especially love the contagious laughs of my Aunt Jill and Uncle Frank. They are hysterical and unique and I cannot help but join in!
- Music – It is medicine for the soul. It can fire you up during a workout, make you cry or laugh and inspire you to do great things. It can even make you ponder life and all that we go through. I love music and cannot imagine life without it!
- Books – To me, they are the best way to escape reality and be transported to another time, setting, and situation. When I get wrapped up in a book, there are not distractions.
- Animals – While dogs are my personal favorite, I love to watch and listen to the birds and other wildlife. We can learn a lot from animals. There is a quote from Elvis Presley who said, “Animals don’t hate and we are supposed to be smarter than they are.” So true.
- The beach – The soft sand, the rolling waves, the salt in the air… it is definitely a place that makes me smile and realize the incredible power of nature. I have nothing but good memories at the beach from being there with my family or friends to walking on the beach by myself in the early mornings. It is paradise to me.
- God – I saved the best for last. God is good! Always and everywhere and in all things. I truly do believe that God is on our side and that means there are good things for all of us. We just have to notice all the good around us and focus on them. If we do this, it will bring a happiness to our hearts and peace to our minds.
Make your own list and see how you feel afterwards. I hope you feel as good as I do now. Focus on the good!!
Every morning, I read a devotional to help inspire me and guide me to be a better person. I do not think today’s devotion was a coincidence since today is the day Donald Trump will be inaugurated as the 45th president of the United States of America.
“Show proper respect to everyone, love the family of believers, fear God, honor the emperor.” 1 Peter 2:17
Today and for the past few months, we have not seen “respect for everyone” because of the hatred for OUR new president. There used to be a respect for elders, teachers, police officers, the military and the President of the United States. That is gone and we should all be very alarmed by this.
These pathetic celebrities who are STILL protesting are not promoting peace. They are demonstrating hatred, intolerance and defiance; the very things they accuse Trump of being/doing.
Let’s not forget one very important thing. The world is watching. A divided country will not stand. Terrorists love to see discord in America. And for those who are hoping for Trump’s assassination, SHAME ON YOU the most! The assassination of a president or other leader makes the country look weak and with all of terrorist groups out there, we cannot afford that.
Finally, and most importantly, our children are watching. Kids today are already a handful because of our warped, entitled society and now they are seeing people refuse to accept this new president because they wanted someone else. That is the equivalent of an adult temper tantrum! Stop, already! Show your children how to act if you do not get what you want. Show your children that we should give people a chance and please teach them to “respect everyone.”
May God bless America today and every day!
Happy New Year! Well, if you made a New Year’s resolution, you are almost one full week into keeping it! How are you doing?
I was not going to make a resolution this year. Usually, I vow to eat healthier, exercise more, blah, blah, blah. And every year, I do it for a few months and then tend to go back to my old habits. Can any of you relate? I did not want to set myself up for failure, as terrible as that sounds. So this year, I did not make any resolutions…until I read a blog written by Missy Robertson of Duck Dynasty.
If you know anything about the show, you know they are a deeply religious family from Louisiana. It is really an amazing story and one that exemplifies the American Dream. Phil Robertson, the patriarch of the family, literally went from rags to riches based on an idea, hard work, and the grace of God. The first two seasons were my favorite ones because they were less scripted but I still watch the show.
This family has had a profound impact on my life. In fact, I credit them for bringing me closer to God, but that’s for another post. Anyway, Missy is Phil’s daughter-in-law and has gone through struggles of her own with her daughter who was born with a cleft lip and palate. This family stands strong however, and does something I think is brilliant. Instead of making a resolution to improve their appearance or to stop a bad habit, they choose a verse from the Bible as their resolution for the year. And they do it as a family. What a great idea! There are so many short and simple verses that tell us to lead a good life. Why not choose one of them to focus on? We will not only improve ourselves, but the lives of those around us.
I started to examine myself and one of my biggest issues is worrying about things that may or may not happen. I have gotten better about realizing that all things are in God’s hands and that worrying does absolutely NOTHING but rob me of peace, but I still tend to do it. Sometimes, I am good during the day and then when I go to sleep at night, the “what if’s?” start creeping in my brain and prevent me from sleeping. My mind starts racing and a million different thoughts come into my mind. I hate that! I know many of you can relate. An alarming number of Americans (including a growing number of children) are on medication for anxiety and depression. While it may be human nature to worry, some of us take it to the extreme. But the verse below tells us to live in the present and not think about what we cannot control in the future.
Therefore, do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about itself. Each day has enough trouble of its own. (NIV)
And there it is! That’s the one. That will be my resolution for 2017. It will be a challenge, but that is what a resolution is supposed to be – a challenge to make you a better person. If you want to try this, you can simply google “Bible verses on…anxiety, depression, fear, love, etc.”
Whatever you resolve to do, I wish you the best of luck! Hope you all have happy and healthy 2017!